How Are We To Love Everyone? A Guided Study In Godly Love



“A new command I give you: Love one another.   As I have loved you, so you must love one another.  By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”—John 13: 34-35

“Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else.”—1 Thessalonians 5:15

“Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for your brothers, love one another deeply, from the heart.”—1 Peter 1:22

“Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.  No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.”—1 John 4:11-12 (God is shown through our love)

“Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.  The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.” –James 5:16

“You, my brothers, were called to be free.  But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another in love.  The entire law can be summed up in a single command: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’  If you keep on biting and devouring each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.”—Galatians 5:13-15

“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.”—Hebrews 10:24

     To love everyone is a very hard command but it is exactly what God tells us to do.  I’m currently working my way through the book  Love One Another: The Importance and Power of Christian Relationships (New Edition) by Gordon Ferguson and his second chapter was defining how God expects us to love each other.  His book is focused on how church members should connect with each other and the chapter I just read was basically a lot of Bible verses with very little explanation.  As you can see by the verses I wrote above, which were just some of the fifty-six passages he focused on, all including “one another” or “each other,” the Bible is pretty detailed on how church members are to interact with each other.  Ferguson split his fifty-six Bible verses into three main ways we should interact with each other: in peace, lovingly, and with encouragement.

    Here are some of the highlights:
    -----We should love each other as God loves us because he loves us.
    -----People can see God through our love of everyone.
    -----We should serve and challenge each other instead of trying to hurt each other.

     The verse I have a lot of trouble with is James 5:16.  Trying to love everyone unconditionally and deeply is hard, I don’t know if I can manage that.  Telling other people about my sins and praying with others for myself is very odd to me.  The non-denominational church I was a part of talked about doing that and it made me nervous.  Telling people my flaws and sins that I’m ashamed of would make me vulnerable and possibly change their perception of me.  I think that is why the confessional in the Catholic Church is a closed box so only the priest can hear and maybe not see.  (Kelly Clarkson has a song that perfectly describes the natural fear of total vulnerability that I can’t resist sharing here.)  But Ferguson says there is no greater gift than to let someone into your deepest emotions, hiding nothing.  I guess that is why dating and marriage relationships are so amazing, because they should be that deep and accepting despite total vulnerability.  Having that level of vulnerability is terrifying to me but seemed to be what the non-denominational congregation expected from everyone in the church.  It is definitely something I need to work on.

    What do you think is the hardest part of God’s command to love everyone as he loves us?

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